常见问题
We cannot always assume a person’s pronouns solely by looking at them. Asking and correctly using someone’s pronouns is one of the most basic ways to show your respect for their gender identity.
当某人被称为错误的代名词时, 这会让他们觉得不被尊重, 无效, 驳回了, 疏远了, 或者烦躁不安(通常是以上所有).)
It is a privilege to not have to worry about which pronoun someone is going to use for you based on how they perceive your gender. 如果你有这个特权, 却不尊重他人的性别认同, 这不仅是不尊重和伤害, 但也很压抑.
She/her/hers and he/him/his are a few commonly used pronouns. Some people call these “female/feminine” and “male/masculine” pronouns, but many avoid these labels because not everyone who uses he feels like a “male” or “masculine.”
还有很多中性代词在使用中. 下面是一些你可能会听到的:
- They/them/theirs (Shea ate their food because they were hungry.) This is a pretty common gender-neutral pronoun and it can be used in the singular. 事实上，“他们”被选为2015年的年度词汇.
- 泰勒吃东西是因为他饿了.) Ze is pronounced like “zee” can also be spelled zie or xe, and re的地方s she/he/they. Hir is pronounced like “here” and re的地方s her/hers/him/his/they/theirs.
永远不要用“it”或“he-she”来称呼一个人。. These are offensive slurs used against trans and gender non-conforming individuals.
没关系! 每个人都会犯错误. The best thing to do if you use the wrong pronoun for someone is to say something right away, 像“对不起, 我的意思是(插入代词)
If you realize your mistake after the fact, apologize in private and move on.
A lot of the time it can be tempting to go on and on about how bad you feel that you messed up or how hard it is for you to get it right. 请不要! It is inappropriate and makes the person who was misgendered feel awkward and responsible for comforting you, 这绝对不是他们的工作.
在课堂上发挥积极作用, you may hear one of your students using the wrong pronoun for someone. 在大多数情况下, it is appropriate to gently correct them without further embarrassing the individual who has been misgendered. This means saying something like “Alex uses the pronoun she,” and then moving on. If other students or 教师 are consistently using the wrong pronouns for someone, do not ignore it! It is important to let your student know that you are their ally.
It may be appropriate to approach them and say something like “I noticed that you were getting referred to with the wrong pronoun earlier, 我知道这真的很伤人. Would you be okay with me taking them aside and reminding them about your pronouns?” Follow up if necessary, but take your cues from the comfort level of your student. 您的行动将非常感激.
